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Marriage, The Devil, and You

            The Book of Genesis identifies the first husband and wife as Adam and Eve, and it depicts the natural order of marriage, i.e. between a man and a woman. In Genesis 2:18, God stated, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a suitable helper for him” (NIV). Boice (1982) noted, “In these verses we learn that the woman was for man; she was made from man; and she was given to man – the greatest of all God’s gifts” (p. 107). Genesis 2:24 states, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh” (NIV). The word marriage occurs forty-five times in the Bible. Boice (1982) observed, “He [God] also established marriage as the first and most basic of human institutions” (p. 113). Hebrews 13:4 supports this observation, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” (NIV). It is clear from the account in Genesis that God established marriage as a sacred union between a man and a woman. Nowhere in the Bible is there a reference to marriage other than as a union between a man and a woman.
            Exodus 20:14 contains the seventh commandment given to Moses by God, “You shall not commit adultery” (NIV). What is somewhat interesting about this commandment for those who are liberally minded in their interpretation of the Bible is that the term adultery expressly applies to sexual relations that occur outside the marriage of a man and woman, which indicates that marriage, as intended by God, is to occur only between a man and a woman. For example, Leviticus 20:10 states, “If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death” (NIV). Note, man and wife!
So you might be reading this, glancing at the title, and wondering, “Where does the devil fit in with all of this? How does marriage involve the devil?” Well, marriage doesn’t involve the Devil at all; at least not in the way God intended it. In order to understand the Devil’s role in marriage, and in life for that matter, we must first go back to the Garden of Eden and the fall of man when sin entered the world. Now, I’m no theologian, but as I read the account in Genesis 3:13, one word in Eve’s response to God’s question stands out – deceived. Eve claimed that the serpent deceived her. A question I often ask when discussing this passage is, “Did the serpent lie?” The reason I ask this question is because many believe that lying and deception are one in the same. That is, they are synonymous terms and can be used interchangeably.
However, that is not the case. While the two terms are related, they are not synonymous. For the purpose of this essay I will define deceive and deception as “the intentional misrepresentation of the truth in order to bring about a desired result or achieve a specific end state.” Whereas lying is “the deliberate denial of the truth.” When the Serpent told Eve she would not surely die if she ate of the tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, he deceived her by misrepresenting the truth about death. He split hairs between physical death and spiritual death. That has been his game throughout history and is something against which Christians must be on their guard at all times because the misrepresentation of the truth is always very close to the truth itself.
Now, back to marriage. As discussed above, marriage was established by God as a union between a man and a woman. Early in man’s history, men and women became inflamed with sexual desires and had unnatural relations with one another. The culmination of these relationships is captured in the famous story of Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis. Although these cities were destroyed by God, it did not end Satan’s role in history and the deception he continues to bring to the world. Unnatural relations continue to this day, and many in the church have been deceived and support the misrepresentation of the truth. What Christians must understand is that God provides judgment by giving people over to their sinful desires, and the lack of mention of certain issues, i.e. same-sex marriage, should not be misinterpreted as tolerance or acceptance.
Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural [italics mine] relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversions. Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done (Romans 1: 26-28).
Notice women are mentioned first in this passage. Sproul (2009) stated,
Throughout human history man has been the gender that seems most brutish, most without consciousness and godliness. The woman has been the fairer sex, but when Paul wants to describe the depth of the fall of the human race, he says that even the women exchanged the natural use for is contra naturum, against nature, not simply against culture, or societal convention (p. 50).
The Devil is alive and well in the world today and in the church. We must remain vigilant lest we fall into the trap of humanism, which asserts that man is basically good.
            Sproul (2009) noted, “When the apostle Paul describes the radical corruption of the human race, he sees the sin of homosexual behavior as the sin most representative of the radical nature of our fall” (p. 50). In other words, it represents the depth of our depravity and perversion. “When we become involved in homosexual practices, we are not only sinning against God but against the nature of things” (Sproul, 2009, p. 50). Many today believe that homosexuality is natural; people are simply born that way. However, the Bible is clear that such behavior is not natural. “It is against nature as God has created it” (Sproul, 2009, p. 51). Homosexuality is a distortion of the nature of the relationship God intended between a man and a woman, and same-sex marriage is an abomination of the union God intended between a man and a woman.
            In years past, particularly in the 70s and 80s when I was growing up, it was inconceivable to think two women or two men would legally marry openly. It was even more inconceivable that society would be so accepting of such a marriage. Over thirty years later, things have certainly changed. Our society has become increasingly wicked and tolerant to the point of embracing such ideas. What has really happened is that man has placed his will ahead of God’s and decided he knows better what is right and acceptable. By placing his will above God’s, what man has really done is shrug off the need for salvation and a savior. Man has become his own savior. In this way, man has once again been deceived.
            The Bible contains the history of salvation. One might even argue the sole purpose of the Bible is to provide the knowledge of salvation in order that man might repent and be saved from the gates of hell. Salvation is only possible through repentance and turning from our evil ways. Today many in the church have been deceived into the misguided belief that God simply loves everyone and will only punish the truly wicked, whomever they happen to be as defined by the individual. However, the not-so-bad people will make it into heaven. In fact, many so-called Christians have taken up arms, so to speak, in support of wickedness in the name of Christianity. From www.gaychristian.net, “A growing number of Christians believe the church has made a mistake and that the church's position [on homosexuality] ought to be reformed.” Supporters of same-sex marriage malign the Word of God and attempt to distort what the Bible states about homosexuality by using verses out of context and interpreting them in a manner that suits their needs. One such argument is that the writings of Paul, in particular, are based on cultural norms and not on universal biblical principles. In other words, homosexuality was culturally unacceptable in the context in which it took place. Therefore, the Bible is not condemning homosexuality itself, just the context in which it occurred. Another argument regarding the absence of same-sex marriages in the Bible is also a matter of context. Essentially, proponents of same-sex marriage posit the reason for its absence in the Bible is due to the fact “same-sex marriages weren't a part of the cultures in which the Bible was written, so obviously we wouldn't expect to see stories of men and women with same-sex partners” (www.gaychristian.net). While this might sound like a logical argument, it is a distortion of the truth intended to deceive.
            There’s that word again. Christians must heed the words of Sun Tzu, who said, “All warfare is based on deception,” for we are indeed engaged in the ultimate warfare – spiritual warfare. “Deception varies from simple concealment of trivial information to outright lies and disinformation” (Wanasika & Adler, 2011). The deliberate attempt to twist and distort biblical teaching to suit one’s desires is the deceptive folly of the Devil, and it is his intent to mislead as many as possible.
            Christians must decide if they believe the Bible is the complete, authoritative Word of God. If they do, they must yield to its teaching. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 states, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work” (NIV). In other words, it is sufficient for teaching us everything we need to know about God and salvation. If it is sufficient, that means it is not lacking in any way. If the Bible doesn’t address same-sex marriages, it is not because it is lacking in its capturing of culturally acceptable practices, which is to ‘read into’ the Bible those things that suit our needs. Rather, it is because of the obvious answer – the Bible doesn’t support the idea. As Boice notes, “In the Bible, God has given us everything we need to know.” Many Christians today engage in subjective hermeneutics. That is, the parts of the Bible they believe are from God are the parts that bless them. We cannot pick and choose from the Bible out of convenience in order to support what we want to believe in relation to society.
            In December 1973, Time published an article titled “The Bible: Bible Believers Gain,” that concluded:
            The breadth, sophistication and diversity of all this biblical investigation are impressive, but it begs a question: Has it made the Bible more credible or less? Literalists who feel the ground move when a verse is challenged would have to say that credibility has suffered. Doubt has been sown, faith is in jeopardy. But believers who expect something else from the Bible may well conclude that its credibility has been enhanced. After more than two centuries of facing the heaviest scientific guns that could be brought to bear, the Bible has survived —and is perhaps the better for the siege. Even on the critics' own terms—historical fact—the Scriptures seem more acceptable now than they did when the rationalists began the attack.
What Time was stating quite simply is the Bible is a reliable book. That is, its contents are historically accurate. Divine inspiration is a matter of faith and is for believers. The Bible’s authority is complete and total; it is not partial, nor is it incomplete in any way. Christians either trust the Bible or they don’t. There really is no middle ground. As such, if they submit to the Bible’s authority, which is God’s authority, they must do so completely and avoid subjectivity in regard to its authority.
            Why does all of this matter, and what’s the “big deal” conservative Christians are making about same-sex marriage? In 2 Timothy 3:1-4, Paul describes what the world will be like in the last days.
But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lover of pleasure rather than lovers of God (NIV).
In verse 5 he goes on to state, “having a form of godliness but denying its power” (NIV). As Boice points out, “Paul isn’t talking about pagan world. Paul would never say they have a form of godliness. They have a form of ungodliness is what they’ve got. What he’s talking about is the church. ” In other words, the problem in the last days is the vices we see in the world will be in the church so much so that the church will be nearly indistinguishable from the secular culture.
            For all of you liberal Christians out there, consider same-sex marriage. Why isn’t it addressed in the Bible? Did God forget to include it in the Bible? How can homosexuality be treated as an abomination in both the Old and New Testaments and yet somehow be supported by modern Christians who are unable to cite chapter and verse in support of it? My friends, if you believe the Bible supports homosexuality or same-sex marriage, you are being deceived! Don’t you find it ironic the topic is never addressed favorably in the Bible? Do you really believe an omniscient and omnipotent God would somehow leave that tidbit of information missing?     
            We are engaged in spiritual warfare, and the stakes are high. In fact, they have eternal consequences – your soul. The church must stand firm on this issue and not allow this evil to invade it. Too often today the Word of God is being denigrated in order to suit the will of man. This is particularly true in regard to homosexuality and same-sex marriage. It is given full measure and its due in the Bible, and its handling reflects the will of God. He makes his intentions known through his will. It is complete and perfect; it is not ambiguous or vague, nor does it require addition or amendment by man, who was created by God. He does not require, nor does he need, our assistance in carrying out his will. His will be done on earth as it is in heaven. When we begin to believe his Word requires anything from us, we walk precariously close to the edge of blasphemy. Yet our culture persists in its perpetual effort to incorporate its norms into the Bible rather than incorporate the Bible’s norms into it.
Dr. Liam Goligher (2013), senior pastor at Tenth Presbyterian church in Philadelphia, observed, “We are in a culture today where people will accommodate and tolerate everything and anything except biblical Christianity. And the danger is, of course, that we allow ourselves to accommodate to the culture. There is the scorn heaped on our understanding of human nature and sexual morality.” This is particularly true today as there is an increased tolerance of homosexuality and adoption of same-sex marriage by the church and by many who profess to be Christians. As I’m fond of saying, there are no Christians for same-sex marriage; at least not true Bible-believing Christians. There are only misguided people who don’t properly understand the biblical meaning of marriage, or who perhaps are not, in fact, genuine Christians but believe they are because they’ve been convinced they are.
We live in a time when society is trying to impose its will on the church. It is employing the use of superficial, interpretive logic of biblical texts in an attempt to justify its agenda, which is really Satan’s agenda. Satan is capitalizing on the many churchgoers who attend worship service each week but who do not regularly read or study the Bible. Instead they rely on others to tell them the Bible says and what to believe about certain issues. Governing bodies of the church, much like congress, have their own agendas and are not immune to the influence of the Devil. They cater to the will of society rather than remaining steadfast in the Word of God. These governing bodies and their agents have corrupted the church by allowing evil through its doors, and in so doing have mislead many into believing false teaching. Our culture today is one in which Christians are pressured into “muting the uncomfortable and disturbing Word of God” (Goligher, 2013). The terrible times Paul mentioned in Romans are indeed here. The church is under attack externally from its detractors and internally through false teaching. This attack will continue and its persecution will increase until Christ returns for his bride. Until that time, Christians must read and inwardly digest the Word of God, and they must resist the temptation to accommodate the sinful culture in which they live. Christians must
Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage with careful instruction. For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths (2 Timothy 4:2-4, NIV).

References
Boice, J. M. (1982). Genesis: An expositional commentary volume 1. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
Boice, J. M. (n.d.). Is God’s word sufficient for this age? Philadelphia, PA: Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals.
Goligher, L. (2013). Fan the flame. Philadelphia, PA.
Sproul, R. C. (2009). St. Andrews expositional commentary. Wheaton, IL: Crossway.
Wanasika, I., & Adler, T. (2011). Deception as strategy: Context and dynamics. Journal of Managerial Issues, 23(3), 364-378,249. Retrieved from http://0-search.proquest.com.library.regent.edu/docview/921536311?accountid=13479


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